In every class and community setting across the land there are children and young people who are struggling.
The key concern that led to the birth of Relationship Health Matters and to I Matter Training is why are so many children struggling and what exactly needs rethinking?
Why are there so many children with mental health difficulties and challenging behaviour?
This is a question that doesn't have any easy answers but the research evidence does clearly point to the fact that some important rethinking is needed.
The sheer scale of the numbers of children who are not coping well tells us that the way we are trying to solve the current problems is not going to get us to where we want to go.
So how do we go about this rethinking? One of the difficulties is that caring for children who are anxious or challenging is so demanding that it leaves little time for any other thinking. The most urgent question is how do we get through today? So what we usually most want in a high pressure situation is for someone to tell us how to 'fix' the problems.
The trouble is that looking for a quick fix is not going to resolve the problems because the problem really is that there are some key foundation ideas that are not yet well understood that change the way we need to see things - at a very fundamental level. These are ideas that are now supported by decades of research evidence which notably change the way that we see the role of adults in the care of children - particularly those who are vulnerable or anxious or challenging.
The research is clearly telling us that the way that adults behave changes the way that children's brains develop and function - both right now in the immediate situations but also over the longer term.
Suddenly we need to do some rethinking. And this new thinking involves every adult and every role.
No one is uninvolved.
So where to start?
The good news is that in embarking on a journey you can make a difference and schools and services have a huge role to play in finding a new way forward.
The steps usually look like this:
It starts with You.
Each step matters
Some articles to get you thinking
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Relationship Health and Your Key Role in the Classroom
Relationship Health and Self Care in the Working Role
Assessing the Relationship Health Needs at School
Relationship Health and Connections
Relationship Health and Routines and Rituals
Relationship Health and Setting Limits
Relationship Health and Managing Conflict
Relationship Health and the Journey to Independence
Relationship Health and the Attachment Village
Relationship Health Keeping a Long View
Relationship Health and Listening to Feelings
Relationship Health and Money Competencies
Relationship Health and Education Outcomes
Relationship Health and Children's Mental Health
Relationship Health and Children's Physical Health
Relationship Health and Crime Statistics
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Dr Cathy Betoin
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